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[gadjo_dilo]

gadjo , have you tried contacting the Romanian Red Cross - they may be able to offer you some support or help. They seem to have some age-related programmes.

In this country the health system is a mess, the social assistance almost inexistent. We can't afford to be ill.
All I could do was to access a 3 months programme, that's all the support through a private association that get money from the state for this. A woman came once/day and took care of her wounds - about half an hour. It was supposed to be for free but I bribed those women to assure they'll help me after that. And they still come . 1/2 hour/day when they find time to come. The rest of the time it's me or my brother who have to fight with a woman who can't leave the bed and have moments when her mind is completely gone.
I can't afford to pay a woman to stay permanently with her, not to mention that her treatment is about 1/4 of my wage. Asylums are but a few, a private one is too expensive.
Sometimes I feel I'm at the end of patience, sometimes I wonder how much strength I have, sometimes I behave like a real bitch- like I'm doing right now

[airshifter]

Sometimes I feel I'm at the end of patience, sometimes I wonder how much strength I have, sometimes I behave like a real bitch- like I'm doing right now

You are far from being a bitch. You are simply a person in a very trying situation doing the best you can to do the right thing. And that can sometimes be very taxing and take a heavy toll. The fact that you continue to endure this heavy toll reflects very kindly on you as a person, and despite all the material things we can sometimes be distracted with, being a good human being is something that eludes many....... but obviously not you.

I'm sorry that you are going through such a trying time, but I'm glad that you find this forum and the people on it a comfortable enough place to vent your frustrations. Sometimes seeing inside a persons life like you have allowed us to do reminds us all that some priorities in life aren't easy, but should remain priorities. Having been through a similar situation in the not too distant past with my father, I can sympathize with what you are doing through. And I can also respect that you are doing what you feel is right, despite the personal price you are paying.

And understanding that having others to help you through it helps, consider this an open offer to PM me any time you need to vent. Being I'm not on the forum all that often, I'll give you an email address if you want as well. I don't want to see another human in need feel like they are alone in their struggle, and if I can help you through this time I will do so gladly.

[Starter]

How long do I want to live? difficult question. In short, I would like to live as long as possible. But with the proviso that if my quality of life deteriorates rapidly let tit be for a shoert time.

Do you consider life sacrosanct? Or would you agree with euthanasia in some cases?

I think young people should go to China to learn about other cultures.

I firmly support people's right to "check out" if that is what they really want. There can be many reasons for it, but it's a personal choice. There should be some limits so you can't just do it on a whim though. For people with terminal illnesses, in my opinion it would be a crime not to allow them death with dignity. It's illegal in the state where I live, but my wife and I have made arrangements so that, should either of us we ever get to that point, the other will be able to take care of things.

Following the line of thought, what is your opinion on the subject?

[airshifter]

I think young people should go to China to learn about other cultures.

I firmly support people's right to "check out" if that is what they really want. There can be many reasons for it, but it's a personal choice. There should be some limits so you can't just do it on a whim though. For people with terminal illnesses, in my opinion it would be a crime not to allow them death with dignity. It's illegal in the state where I live, but my wife and I have made arrangements so that, should either of us we ever get to that point, the other will be able to take care of things.

Following the line of thought, what is your opinion on the subject?

We just found out a couple days ago that my daughter was accepted in the exchange going to China to learn about other cultures. Dead serious!


And with the topic at hand, I agree with you. If a person is of sound mind they should be allowed to make the decision to end their life. I might also add that there should be some types of provisions to ensure end of life decisions are followed. In the not too distant past my father died, and I believe his end of life wishes were likely denied by his wife, as she never produced the living will to clarify HIS wishes, even though it was known to exist.


Same question to the next person.

[gadjo_dilo]

I was trying all the day to avoid an answer to this. We already had that topic about euthanasia.....I don't know. Before having this painful experience I was against it. Questioned the 'personal choice" and "death with dignity'' concepts. Then, when confronted to my personal case I thought it's correct.
I simply don't know now...Never thought she'll resist so much. What if I have opted for her death back in March?
There are moments - like last night - when I can't endure the nightmare and want her to die. Then I try to feed her and she refuses food and I'm desperate(omg, she'll die.....)

Let's change the topic( not before claiming I don't want any help, it's the last thing on my mind to have people of the forum implied in my troubles. Airshifter I beg you once more to delete that):

Where have you spent your best holiday and why was it the best?

[Starter]

At my house on over Christmas with, believe it or not, both sets of in-laws visiting from out of town. The water heater igniter gave up the ghost late on Xmas Eve, way too late to get a plumber to fix it. Spent that night and the next day with no hot water. We ate Christmas dinner on paper plates with plastic utensils (only used our BEST paper and plastic of course ). We all had a very good laugh about it and, somehow, that holiday seemed more special than others.

Which holiday out of the year do you most enjoy and why?

[gadjo_dilo]

The summer holiday. In fact my only holiday cos I hate the cold season and avoid leaving town. I like to go at the seaside, watch the sea, smell the salty air, building sand castles and swimming a lot. The years when I couldn't see the sea are lost years of my life (2014 is one of them).

Are you afraid of earthquakes?

[steveaki13]

I guess you have to be afraid of the consequences of earthquakes. I mean they can be disastrous and deadly. However the actual earthquake I find fascinating and would actually like to experience one in the right environment. Doubt I will.

Why do you think Gadjo missed the earthquake around her way today?

[gadjo_dilo]

Maybe because a total idiot broke her heart, she's devastated and doesn't notice anything around.

Who do you want to win tomorrow race?

[gadjo_dilo]

We just found out a couple days ago that my daughter was accepted in the exchange going to China to learn about other cultures. Dead serious!

Your daughter is incredibly lucky. First Machu Picchu, then China.....And she has such great parents who are preoccupied by her education....

Spent that night and the next day with no hot water. We ate Christmas dinner on paper plates with plastic utensils (only used our BEST paper and plastic of course

But why didn't you just heat some water on the stove?