Quote Originally Posted by Jag_Warrior View Post
As for why some girls in their 20's are attracted to some guys in their 40's+... I guess it depends on the girl and the guy. Older guys (some) have stable jobs, money, cars, homes and may be up for some adventure... and can pay the bill to do it. Attracting a younger (in her 20's) girl isn't really all that hard. But she may be a gold-digger. Some guys are OK with that. I am not. I don't have time for that.
That's why I asked. I have limited knowledge of English.. On my mind to have a crush on someone is to have rather intense feelings for someone you've just met or haven't even met yet, implying you don't know much about that person. Usually is related to the charm or personality because those who have a crush can't find a rational reason for that. Well, I might be wrong but that's what I understand of this syntagm (due to the songs or movies where I listened that ).
But in this case, the girl has yet to admit to me that she's married (someone I know who knows her told me yesterday) and she was always (tastefully) flirty and would send me texts up into the night. A girl who sends me texts at 9 or 10PM... well, I don't know that I'd be able to pull that off if I was married.
That's weird.......Your mother should have known. She had talks with her about her son but haven't ever talked about the girl's life.?.....
As for being flirty, a lot of people do it just for fun or to kill the boredom.( even on this forum you have a significant example )

I have no idea. Caught off guard? Element of surprise? Couldn't bring myself to turn down her offer once she said how much her mom wanted to meet me and how much she wanted me to meet her mom? I really can't tell you why I accepted. But we are going to talk (apparently both she and her mom are iPhone people so we can do a FaceTime chat before we plan the date... which the daughter is apparently doing right now - dammit)
The right answer is that you really want an adventure. . But take care....I'm sure you're smitten with the young one.....So please don't break the mum's heart.

This is possible. But the daughter has been providing care for my mother for some time - that's how we met. And she knows certain things about me and my personality.
Here's the point where things become more complicated. Can your mum be a part of the plan? Maybe she was like do you know a good woman for my wonderful son?

With every property that I've bought, with every stock or option I've traded, with every job I've left for another, with every relationship I've begun or ended... yes, what if. That's the adventure in this journey we call "life": what if.
Hey.......If you really have some properties there's no wonder the girl wants you for her mum. I've noticed that security is that most of the women are looking for in a relationship.

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I like having the answer (or a good idea) before I ask a question. Here, I dony't. And as you can see, it's thrown me off my game and taken me out of my comfort zone.
Come on.....This date is exactly what you wanted (and it seems it was your Christmas gift ) although it's the young one you'd like to see. So enjoy it. I'm sorry if my post spoiled the fun ( if there's a thing I could do without ever failing, then always spoiling the fun is.......). I'm just a bit reticent about these things.
But now that you involved us in this story you have the moral obligation to keep us informed about how things develop. And good luck! So when is the date? New year's eve?