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7th March 2013, 14:48 #21
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7th March 2013, 16:49 #22
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Originally Posted by Malbec
I think people don't change in the essentials, or change very-very slowly. If you've tried it with someone and it hasn't worked, there's no point in trying it again for at least 5 years, in my opinion, and very little point in trying after that.
Plenty more fish in the sea.
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7th March 2013, 17:18 #23
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The second girl is not an ex- so none of the problems of rebuilding a relationship with an ex-are around. Plainly and simply, you and the 2nd girl are both on the rebound. You've both been honest about your former relationships so there's no problem there. Enjoy each other's company, get to know each other slowly, and then decide if you have the makings of a long term relationship.
But, I do wonder, are you feeling pangs of guilt because you feel you treated girl no 1 badly by ditching her when she was suffering from depression rather than trying to help her through it? Is that the real issue?Duncan Rollo
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7th March 2013, 17:48 #24Originally Posted by The Black Knight
Point #2: If you're not involved in a committed relationship and a girl lands in your lap (literally or figuratively), then I say, just go with it for as long as it lasts. There's no sin in just having fun and enjoying each other's company - as long as both parties are honest about what the real deal is.
Point #3: Whether in love, life or business, learn from the past (positive or negative experiences) but do NOT dwell on it. Do NOT try to relive it or beat yourself up about what went wrong or whose fault it was.
Point #4: Refer back to Point #1.
What would I do in this situation? Have lots of fun and be honest (especially with myself). But then again, remember Point #1."Every generation's memory is exactly as long as its own experience." --John Kenneth Galbraith
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7th March 2013, 17:55 #25
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Originally Posted by EuroTroll
On balance though I agree with you, I personally wouldn't want to go over old ground again and I'd want to find someone completely fresh.
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7th March 2013, 18:12 #26
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I need pictures of said girl before I divulge any advice!
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7th March 2013, 18:17 #27
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7th March 2013, 18:17 #28
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7th March 2013, 18:23 #30
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Originally Posted by henners88
I am totally enjoying it. Plus this girl seems to be on the same page as me from what she expects i.e. openness and honesty. My ex used to bring up the past all the time if ever there was a situation where we needed to talk about something. It wrecked my head. Whereas the new squeeze said she was in a similar situation with her ex where he used to bring up the past and she'd have forgotten about it. Anyway, I like a person that can forgive and forget. It's also very rare in a female. To be honest, when she said that to me it was the first time I actually considered it might go somewhere.
Originally Posted by D-Type
Not at all. I tried my best but she kept pushing me away. I feel no guilt whatsoever in having broken up with her. It was ultimately her fault and I did my very best. It's probably the first relationship I've come out of with no regret about the way I behaved.
As for the rebound, I hadn't planned on seeing anyone for a long time but this just happened without me even intending it. I had one or two one nighters over the last two months which I could have pursued but didn't because I knew I'd just be using them to get over my ex. This is different though, I actually like this girl.
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