I think Pirelli are making the tires the FIA and F1 powers that be wanted. They warned us all before they were produced that there would be more fall off and more differences in the compounds. Tires were used to make for more passes through tire strategy, and so far it has worked.
That said, I don't think Pirelli should have any say in how a team or driver chooses to use their tires. I'm starting to think at some tracks the best strategy might be to go out on the harder compound and do a fast lap or two in hopes of advancing to Q2, and then just sit on all the softer tires and the balance of the hards to use up during the race.
I wonder if the concern is that cars will sit out the second two qually sessions too often, making for boring qually?