Meeting your ex

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Originally Posted by Les

The only reason to meet your ex is to do something physical - anything and everything else can be done by phone or email.

You are naive to think your wife won't find out and when she does the first thing she will ask is why didn't you tell her.... and you have not got an answer that won't dig a bigger and deeper hole.

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Is it? :confused: I managed to meet up with an ex and not have anything physical happen?

I'm all for communication by phone and by email but sometimes seeing someone face to face is good. I'm going to a stag weekend in a week and a bit. Should be all sit at home on msn with webcams instead? :confused: Whilst I'm the sort of person who can hold a grudge I can also sometimes be sensible and just realise that what happened happened for a reason and if I'm happy with things now why shouldn't I just be friends with someone?

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Originally Posted by slinkster

Wierdly, I agree with gloomyday on this.

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Well, at least I know the world is going to end today.

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Originally Posted by studiose

Well, because... women are really boring. Why suffer through the tedium of hearing them talk about their lives when you can get the essential info from friends? There's no point in that at all. Unless you're looking to get your card stamped.

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:laugh: I just woke up my brother by laughing!

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Originally Posted by Daniel

Is it? :confused: I managed to meet up with an ex and not have anything physical happen?

I'm all for communication by phone and by email but sometimes seeing someone face to face is good. I'm going to a stag weekend in a week and a bit. Should be all sit at home on msn with webcams instead? :confused: Whilst I'm the sort of person who can hold a grudge I can also sometimes be sensible and just realise that what happened happened for a reason and if I'm happy with things now why shouldn't I just be friends with someone?

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The rules are different with an ex-gf. You know that Daniel. There is a set of guidelines to friendship, which happens to be skewed if you previously slept with that "friend".

Now I know that you went out for some coffee and a chat with the ex, and no monkey business. At the same time you'll have this clout of guilt if you're in a relationship, especially if your current gf doesn't know about this engagement (I'm sure you told your gf and that's how she found out). My point is that there is a very big difference between having a friend that's a female and hanging out, and having an ex-gf that just keeps hovering around you.

One last thing. The main reason that I keep ex-gf's at a distance is because women are inherently very jealous creatures, more so than men. If they can't have you, then they'll throw a wrench into any type of relationship that you're trying to seek with someone else.

If you bail, then you bail. Don't look back!

I just remind myself that Slorydn2 carries a .357 magnum AND KNOWS HOW TO USE IT!!!! That by itself is more than enough to keep me from chatting with ANY ex's!!!!!! :p :

Never ever meet an Ex you are better without them.

The reference to "getting one's card stamped" had me laughing out loud as well....

Around here, my buddies and I usually refer it to getting one's "oil changed"......

No oil changed, we might only do fuel exchange...
seriously we only traded a book, write up something together, but if we meet again it's enough to cause great tenderness.

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Originally Posted by bluegem280

No oil changed, we might only do fuel exchange...
seriously we only traded a book, write up something together, but if we meet again it's enough to cause great tenderness.

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That's what ultimately stopped me from meeting with her this time. She could imagine that I am tired with my family life and looking for something different and that something would be her. I am good friends with some women but in this case friendship would be difficult. I came to that conclusion upon some reflection induced by your honest attempts, my friends, to save me from myself. :)

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Originally Posted by Daniel

You don't know women do you? ;) :p

Your wife will know, she just will.

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You don't know women do you?

A real wife will know even if the husband is innocent and doesn't see his ex. :laugh:

And I guess she is right. :laugh:

All these rules about what you are and are not allowed to do are really putting me off ever having a long term realationship :laugh:

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Originally Posted by Brown, Jon Brow

All these rules about what you are and are not allowed to do are really putting me off ever having a long term realationship :laugh:

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:up:

You gotta think it through. What works best for you, what do you really want. Nowadays with women pretty much as unconstrained as men, it's perfectly possible to have a great and fun life being single. Me, I don't plan to be in a relationship ever again. Of course, that doesn't mean that I never will be. The enemy is well motivated and far better armed. Keep that in mind!

And also keep in mind stories like Mark's and Driveace's. You don't know how many guys there are out there who wish they could plead insanity for the day they put their hancock on that particular dotted line. Lots!