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I'm sorry Slinkster but having done something similar and having no intentions other than meeting up for a chat I can see where Rudy's coming from. He wants to have his cake and eat it. He wants to meet up with the ex for some coffee and doesn't want his wife to kill him. He's mistaken! But he's not necessarily trying to hide anything bad as such......Quote:
Originally Posted by slinkster
Why would you want to be friend's with the ex-gf? I just think it's counterproductive to waste time on something that isn't going to work, especially if you're already in a relationship. Just let it go and focus on what's right in front of you.Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
I would be respectful to an ex-gf if we crossed paths, but other then that, they can stay the hell away from me.
Well at some point, the wife should give her man credit and not be so paranoid...so I can understand why Rudy is thinking "I wear the pants in this family, I can decide who I have coffee with". That said, looking for trouble is always trying to prove a point, where it doesn't need to be made.Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
To be fair though, if he wants to meet up with her he shouldn't do a Daniel and try to hide it when there's nothing to hide.Quote:
Originally Posted by Mark in Oshawa
Good man. I'm still on very good terms with my ex-fiance's family (aunt) in Maryland - and we broke up about 15 years ago. But as for the ex, I don't wish her any harm, but as much as people have tried to get us back together... I have no interest in that, or even seeing her again. Once it's (really) over... in my book, it's over forever.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rudy Tamasz
Imagine if you'd eventually fallen out with this woman after reconnecting as "friends". She could have easily called or texted your wife and made up all sorts of sillines, just to cause you grief. And your wife, not knowing that you'd just had an innocent coffee with this woman, wouldn't know what to think. She would just know that you kept her in the dark... and wonder why you felt the need to do that, if it was innocent. It would surely harm your relationship with her.
What you said on the previous page, about drama and relationships with women, is very true. But that's actually true of any human relationship (friends will want to borrow money or want you to do things for them, relatives will want to visit you when it's least convenient, jilted women will talk about keying your car, you get into an out-of-town relationship and find out that she's MARRIED, a friend's *drunk* wife plants a big kiss on you at a party and now it's weird to see her... and you're going out with her sister, etc., etc.).
The old saying is, if you want a (true) friend, buy a dog. I didn't even have to do that. A pretty black lab stray showed up at my house last summer when I was rather down in spirits. I'm not really a dog person, but I've let her stay - she's funny, goofy and very friendly... loads of fun (and she doesn't talk! :p : ). About the longest that I'll allow an unrelated (human) female to stay at this house is 72 hours. Think about getting a dog, my friend. :up:
Perhaps not everything is about getting sex though? Some people can be friends because they want to be friends with people and find it rewarding?Quote:
Originally Posted by gloomyDAY
Exactly.....sometimes the act of hiding the meeting is enough to put your boy's in the vise....not your intentions. It is all about appearences with women...Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
Absolutely! As long as it isn't with your ex-gf.Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
Thank you everyone for a fantastic and entertaining start to the day...
This thread has made me laugh like no other...
It's amazing how men unite around the world with the sole purpose of survival and keeping the peace...
well done chaps...
situation difused...
Rudy will live...
:)
AJP, the boys couldn't let Rudy make a mistake. The Brotherhood has to stick together, because women all belong in the same Union, and they Grieve ALL our misdeeds!!!