It's always tragic when parents lose a child. The only thing worse is if the parents are somehow culpable, eg a car crash with father driving.
Was he their only son?
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It's always tragic when parents lose a child. The only thing worse is if the parents are somehow culpable, eg a car crash with father driving.
Was he their only son?
They also have a daughter and were a beautiful happy family. They moved in the house next to me a few years ago. We weren't close friends but we used to greet and sometimes I talked with his mother esp. about their cat ( remember Tina?). I knew the boy studied architecture and sang in a rock band. The band repeated in their basement but I never knew the band name. When the fire was announced on TV I instantly thought of his band but then I googled the name of the band that sang on the club and was relieved that his name wasn't among them. Never thought he was a friend of them and even made the video for their single. On weekend I noticed some weird moves at my neighbour's gate but didn't care. Even saw his dad and said hello but he didn't say anything about the incident. The news came today when my brother called me at work saying he thinks that a boy with our neighbour's name died in a hospital in Birmingham. It was like a thunder hit me, I realized it was him and burst in tears. Life is so unfair..... He didn't deserve such suffering, his skin was seriously burnt and so were his respiratory organs. But my biggest concern at the moment is his parents. I wish they'll be strong enough to overcome this. They're probably destroyed after so many days of uncertainty, maybe they hoped that by sending him to UK he'd get a chance.
No. It was a terrible incident.
I know I shouldn't offer advice unasked. But I feel with your excellent English could be of great help to your neighbours. I suggest you offer your condolences and offer to act as interpreter/translator if they need any help.
I'll just pray for them.
I'm sorry to hear about this tragedy. :(
Dear ISIS,
If you are responsible for the attacks on Paris, why do you think that anyone in the world is likely to be sympathetic to your cause?
They're not at all concerned with who sympathizes with them. You either agree with their point of view or you lose your head... literally. One would think that any "club" that requires you to be willing to strap on a bomb filled vest wouldn't have many members. But oddly enough, a good many people travel great distances to join up. And for those with radical views, what happened in Paris will likely be a very effective recruitment tool.
Crazy world...
There's only one solution to that kind of fanaticism. Send the free world's armies in and kill them all. No prisoners.Quote:
Originally Posted by Jag_Warrior
I am usually totally against this sort of action as a response, but I kind of agree Starter. These are not people, they are rabid dogs and cowards. The leaders hide in holes half a world away and have other misdirected, brainwashed plebs do their bidding. The sooner the world is free of them the better.Quote:
Originally Posted by Starter
To the people of Paris. Stay strong the World is with you.
On a different note (and seemingly unimportant compared with above) Final exams start today...HURRAY!
Final exams always seem pretty important if you happen to be the one sweating them. ;) :)Quote:
Originally Posted by anfield5
True, but in the scheme of the world who knows?.Quote:
Originally Posted by Starter
Finished my Marketing exam, nothing in it I wasn't expecting - will be annoyed with myself if I get below 85%. Each paper has 3 assessments, a two hour test a major assignment and a final. Going in I already had 52% of my final mark i.e. 52/60 with the final being worth 40%. Som I was lucky enough to go in with no stress to worry about. Time will tell.
Good for you!Quote:
Originally Posted by anfield5
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Originally Posted by Rollo
Those damned 'good' guys with guns have let America down for the 360th time in 2015. If only someone in America had guns.
The tree of liberty must be refreshed from time to time with the blood of patriots and tyrants and especially disabled children and senior citizens as often as possible.
Getting rid of disabled children and senior citizens saves a TON of tax money for social welfare programs.Quote:
Originally Posted by Rollo
Granted.
But you also end up paying for the "privilege" in a roundabout way through increased health care premiums.
I paid A$1819 (USD1328) for two people this financial year for full coverage. That's less than a quarter of the US average of $2823.24 per person.
Last minutes of 2015, probably the saddest year of my life. I want to thank to all those who stood by me in this period and wish you a happy new year.
To those whom I was wrong I ask forgiveness.
To those whom I have been helpful, I wish I could have done more.
To those whom I neglected, I ask understanding.
To those who helped me I thank from my soul.
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Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
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Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
Mm, saddest? Perhaps... 2016 will be slightly less sad!
Will it be?
Perhaps!
In my mind it is already right now slightly less sad than before, dear gadjo! :)
No, Jens. For me 2016 will be worse.
Matter of fact it already started the wrong way.
But I've learned to survive, I'm stronger than I ever thought.
"Stubborn machedoanca" as my coworkers would say.....:p
Let's all hope for a better 2016 gadjo..
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Originally Posted by Storm
Ability to survive is a very good and valuable skill! So in my view that's a big positive already :)Quote:
Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
Hi guys and girl(s?), just wanted to drop by having been away a few months. A lot has been happening. But reading some previous pages, I think I'm guilty of feeling a bad situation is just the absolute pits and I forget other people are suffering and far worse...
Yes I have to agree, it's a very underrated skill I think. Sometimes it's no longer about pushing the envelope but simply holding firm to what you have, and remaining. That Rocky quote that it's not about the winning, it's about how much you can take and keep walking, I think about that a lot.Quote:
Originally Posted by jens
Jens I have (re)seen the PM you sent ages ago, it finally clicked I hadn't responded - now fixed.
I wish I was this kind... :)Quote:
Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
I SO agree. I think this is more important than can be understood sometimes. I know I could do with rediscovering my inner child to be honest.Quote:
Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
Airshifter I'm sorry to hear that. Having been out of work for almost 4 years I can understand how it is, but big thumbs up for the fitness, and for doing something. I was out cycling almost every day while not working, averaging 100 miles or more a week usually (can't believe I used to do that now lol!), so I ended up getting pretty fit.Quote:
Quite a bit on my mind lately. I've recently become unemployed, which naturally ramps up stress levels. But I'm on a fitness kick lately, so that helps keep things in check. For the above reasons I've been less active on here and in other areas as I've found distractions keeping me busy.
But I still enjoy the forum. Lately more Chit Chat than the F1 forum, seems we agree to disagree more easily in here.
So yeah struggling with poor health these days, I can end up feeling a bit more sorry for myself than I should... I actually collapsed at work Monday night, well not properly, I didn't actually faint, just kinda slumped to the floor. I was actually pretty touched by how kind my colleagues were to me, even though they needed me for the night shift, and they sent me home. I managed to drive back in the end but took an hour and a half to get out of the car. Last time something similar happened but much milder I was made fun of for being lazy and sleeping. As for this forum, I have decided to pretty much leave as having thought about it I'm not sure I want to follow F1 or anything anymore, instead needing to concentrate on my own development and life. I will be 32 next month, and am highly anxious that I don't seem to have achieved anything with my life, or look like anywhere near doing so soon. I no longer feel F1 contributes anything worthwhile to my life, so it is a case of priorities as time is short. Formula 1 does not for me hold the magic and beauty it did when I fell in love with the sport years ago.
I've also been disheartened by what I'd say is the quality of my posts having steadily degraded over time. Having found I also don't currently have the capacity to function properly in a meaningful relationship, I have studied much online and realised I have covert narcissistic personality disorder, which is a horrible truth to face. It ends up having a huge effect on others too.
In fact, I would even urge anyone unaware of this to look it up, to see how you can be so affected and mistreated by people with narcissistic personality disorder and it's subtypes. Here is an example of one of the many videos of youtube on the subject. They really should teach this in schools I think.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-WVLZXLyO-M
Ha! If I take after what I read online I'll have all diseases in the world ( plus a few more that haven't been invented yet ). :pQuote:
Originally Posted by rjbetty
You're still young and have plenty of time to achieve ( what? ). What is really important is to stay healthy so try to investigate what's wrong with your body.Quote:
Originally Posted by rjbetty
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Originally Posted by rjbetty
Yeah, the forums have become a total boredom. Not because the sports lost their magic but cos the apathy of the forumers hypocritically hidden behind of a being busy excuse. :devil: :p
Life will be full of struggles, but that is part of life. Understanding them and turning them around is what matters. I personally wouldn't pay much attention to online diagnosis, and for that matter am at times wary of in person diagnosis by a doctor.Quote:
Originally Posted by rjbetty
I've gone through periods of quite a bit of change myself, and as long as that change is what's good for you, that's really all that matters. Personal happiness can come in many forms. For me, if I can look in the mirror and see the kind of person I want to be, that's all that really matters.
But being that you are still young, I'll give you some advice that I think can be very valuable for anyone. Find something that drives you, something you are passionate about for whatever reason. And keep doing it. It really doesn't matter what it is, why it inspires you, or whether anyone else understands it. If it makes you feel complete, relaxed, strong, weak.... none of the emotion matters. That passion will drive you in other aspects and guide you in life. It will always be there, and nobody will be able to take it away. It can give you many things be it strength, peace, resolve, or clarity.
I found that through my jobs over the years, I enjoyed the stress of the high pressure jobs at times. And then I reached a point where I let it consume me. I fooled myself into thinking it was worth it, when in reality it took away from too many areas of my life that I was passionate about. So when my father was terminally ill, my marriage was on the rocks, and the job stress kept piling up, I realized something had to go. And that something was the job. Walking away from a solid salary with great benefits, bonuses, a company car, and expense account wasn't easy. But I regained my life. I would have never believed I could be so relieved to walk away from that money and be under financial stress, but I was.
And during the period I wasn't working, I realized another passion I had missed so much. Helping people in greater need. Through all the stress of the job and situation, I got involved in some outpatient programs to help with the stress and anxiety. And eventually I also figured out that I had been living with PTSD for years, and had never really processed some of the things I had been through in my life. And as a military veteran I was involved in some programs with a lot of other vets. Being my PTSD was non combat related, it was a huge eye opening for me. What I saw as a low point in my life would have been a bright day for many who struggled daily for reasons to stay alive. And it put things in perspective for me. My life is easy in comparison. And I've stayed involved in that program, started locally and now expanding nation wide in the veterans healthcare system. And it's worth it every time I go, knowing that every example might help someone finally find some hope and change their life.
I might have given up some luxuries, had to change some plans financially, and put myself under a different kind of stress. But now I have time to enjoy something I'm actually passionate about, and makes me feel good when I look in the mirror.
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Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
Mostly it went downhill when a young lady from Romania quit posting. She was the wild child that kept things going around here!
I'll raise my hand and admit I'm one of the ones who got busy and changed priorities in the last year or so. I went to the doctor for my back physio, and when I saw the scale weight couldn't believe it. Through all the stress and issues I had let the weight sneak up on me, and wanted to change it. Starting that day.
In 2015 I lost just shy of 40 pounds. And got back to where I enjoy pushing myself in the physical sense. I actually look forward to working out again for a change. And it gives me a release when I'm stressed out too. I've still got some back issues that I have to be cautious of, but I'm hoping to reach a point of doing some endurance type races.
But if that crazy Romanian girl came back, I'd probably hang out here more. She seemed to keep the rest of the crowd I get along with in here active as well. She's kind of the forum bus driver in a way.
I am still just hanging in there. Hi everyone
Hi! :wave:Quote:
Originally Posted by steveaki13
Don't blame her for your or others lack of interest în the forums. She was here all the time 7/7 and about 24/24, posting at any hour, day or night, from any location being it her working place, home, subway or a queue în a supermarket. Unlike the other members she was never busy, she just went to work doing her job under pressure and being humiliated by the bosses but still finding time to post from time to time and risking her job. Then she went home to take care of an old sick person who hasn't left her bed for 2 years and is totally dependant on her and who's having mental crises that would drive her crazy too.. Still posting between feeding her and changing a diaper because it's disrespectful to don't reply a PM or a post.....Quote:
Originally Posted by airshifter
Until she realized she had 9000 posts ( ironically none of them motorsport related :devil: ) and she was talking by herself because, unlike her whose activity offered her all the time în the world, the others were busy. Ironically, the others were also online ( logged or hiding aș „guests” ) but too busy to post a word of two. Then she finally understood they won't be bothered.
First of all, nobody could be a bus driver without a driving license. And she doesn't have one – no kidding. :pQuote:
Originally Posted by airshifter
Secondly, you stopped posting on the forums long before she quitted.
Last, but more hurtful, she sent you an ecard on your birthday and you didn't even bothered to open it ( or at least that's why the feedback messages from the greetings site say ). Neither you did reply to her PM that tried to say this.
So give me a break, air!......:angryfire:
Ok, I think it's time to get that driving license?
:cheese:
Dear Scion,
What is your point? Seriously?
I currently own a Mazda 2. It's a cheeky fun little car and in North America, you beat it up with the ugly stick, took it away from Mazda and put it under this weird nothing badge.
iA - Mazda 2 sedan: but beat with the ugly stick.
xB - Toyota Rukus
iM - Toyota Corolla
tC - Toyota Avensis Coupe? Maybe?
FR-S - Toyota 86/Subaru BRZ
Basically your whole lineup need not exist at all. Why are you a thing?
I agree Scion sucks...also the fact that Scion keeps beating me to the best parking spot every night :s
Wow, rj...Quote:
Originally Posted by rjbetty
I don't know and cant' comment, what your life has been like outside the Internet.:D But, mate...
I still feel that I have to disagree with some things.:D
I don't feel your post quality has degraded. I still look forward to them!
And I really think that... you are not a REAL narcissist. The way you write posts and discuss, and share your feelings and emphatize with others. Maybe you have habits of narcissism, but it is a different matter as to truly not having the ability to emphatize.
I mean in my life I met quite a lot of genuine narcissists. And with them it is absolutely utterly impossible to discuss anything, because they are so deeply stuck in "their own truth". They do not emphatize with other people - for them the world is full of evils and enemies. And they get angry about everything, or angry about any opinion that differs to theirs! I don't get such feelings from discussing with you. It is possible to discuss with you, and get smarter!
Oh... and as many of us are already well into discussing the details of our lives and who we are, I can say about myself that I am...
how to say it...
...a hypersensitive person. Surroundings, all kinds of sounds, smells, and especially emphatic human athmosphere influence me heavily. I can have an allergic reaction to "bad air". Never understood, how people can smoke!
That's why I like to spend lots of time just walking in the forest. I feel that there truly is a lot of PEACE. Real peace and calmness. Not the stress, which is present in cities. Impossible for me to go along with all the rush and "busy lifestyle", like most people seem to deal with.:) With too many tasks I go crazy if not scizophrenic - and immediately felt the need to back off.
And to carry on...
This sensitiveness has directed me to be really picky about life, because many things cause too much suffering, which I can't deal with - mentally/physically!
I have surrounded myself with reallly good friends. And together it is good to make just some fun, or be creative in some ways (do music, play theatre/role plays, create stories/fantasy worlds/whatever).
And in my free time as well - just relax alone or do some creative stuff with others. Yoga and meditation is very much for me as well. I never feel bored though - even if I do nothing and are alone. Because the athmospheres, wherever I am - influence me, and always give interesting feelings and thoughts.
I liked, as I said, nature, and animals. Because animals IMO are so sincere, and not as complicated as (many) people! :)
And of course I like motorsports. In the past I watched other sports a lot too. It is interesting to ponder, why though. In a way racing (or sports competition in general) is also sincere. To try to take perfect lines through tracks, and then you have emotions after your efforts and either succeeding or failing. And of course it is just fascinating to analyze all that. There are so many aspects in play. Motorsports in itself is a small world - and all those small factors put together make a big picture!
I was never much into "films" - for me they feel a bit "artificial". I have always been fascinated of the real world, and if I watch anything, they are documentaries.
Unfortunately, it might come a day when life would hit you with a real tough problem. What will you do then?Quote:
Originally Posted by jens
Probably find out that you can carry much more than you ever thought......
Hi everyone, I'm sorry for not getting back sooner. I did type a long reply the other day but didn't manage to finish it so will just keep it short.
Thank you all for the encouragement. No I really do have strong NPD syptoms across the board. I don't like the definition of a label, as I don't think anyone's fixed in position, but it just explains where I'm at. It's not just data I've collected together, but my general feeling and conscience that convicts me. I do however have an enormous score of 104 out of 115 for a 23 point test online
The tricky thing is that it's "covert" narcissism, so it's under the radar. It's not big and loud, but more inverted. It's true that I seem quite gentle on the surface, but I feel angry about things underneath. The main hallmark is lack of empathy and I know it's true that I'm definitely stuck in my own mind.
The hope is though that this is a coping mechanism. I know I have had to harden my heart as a person, otherwise I would have been eaten alive, and it just waits to reach a safe place to soften again. And also though I hate to say it, I feel mentally and emotionally exhausted after a non-stop few years, and I think I can use that word sincerely. There's hope for getting better, but just more riding things out for the moment.
Thanks for the posts guys and girl, and well done for the good things you do. Keep going.
You are right that one day surely something truly bad can happen.:) Not can, but WILL. Especially as we people all get older, and more prone to setbacks, as in some ways life cycle will be in sort of a natural decline.Quote:
Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
Depends, what we are talking about, but I probably could carry some more weight. But I wouldn't be happy!
Hmm, interesting... Well, I haven't seen you in real life, so it is tough for me to give my perspective.:)Quote:
Originally Posted by rjbetty
But I'd say one thing. If you think you have a problem, that's one big step forward. Because usually narcissists do not recognize they have a problem - the world around them is just full of "stupid people". That's it and they carry on with this 'knowledge' till their death basically.
So I believe you are already a step above that level.;) Another issue is which kind of methodology to use to overcome this, but this will be for you to analyze..)
As for anger. Fundamentally I think most - if not all - people are angry about some things in the world or life. This is sort of natural. Because life can be tough and many people can (rightfully) feel life has been flatout unfair to them in some matters. But the question is how to 'canalize' the energy of anger, how to understand it, which conclusions to draw, etc.
Fundamentally... anger is why we have wars in the world. People are angry and they just need, baaadly need to canalize this energy into something. Just a human reaction... But there are different ways of canalizing this anger as well - like music.