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8th March 2013, 14:46
Garry Walker

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Originally Posted by ioan

My advice to everyone: carpe diem.
In life you should take everything good that comes your way, otherwise you'll end up regretting it for a life time.

Give the man an award.
7 months is far enough time to get over a relationship and stop being sad about it.
8th March 2013, 14:57
henners88

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Originally Posted by Garry Walker

Give the man an award.
7 months is far enough time to get over a relationship and stop being sad about it.

Its 7 weeks, he corrected himself later on in the thread.
8th March 2013, 15:21
The Black Knight

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Originally Posted by henners88

Its 7 weeks, he corrected himself later on in the thread.

Yes, I wrote 7 months but it was meant to be 7 weeks. Couldn't edit my original post then by the time I realized it! :)
8th March 2013, 15:21
Jag_Warrior

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Originally Posted by The Black Knight

Hahaha, why no babies?

I like babies... as long as they belong to other people. If she wants to rent one for the weekend, I'd be cool with that. But come Sunday evening, it has to go back to the store!

There was a time when I wanted a family and kids. But that time has passed and at this stage of my life, I don't see it working for me. But I was honest with my girl when we first got together. I have no intention of getting married. And I have no intention of having kids. If that's something that is important to her, she needs to find someone who wants those things. But it is not me.

The one common fault that women tend to have is thinking that they can change men. And that false hope tends to lead to hard feelings sooner or later. Best to just accept people as they are, IMO.
8th March 2013, 15:28
The Black Knight

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Originally Posted by Jag_Warrior

I like babies... as long as they belong to other people. If she wants to rent one for the weekend, I'd be cool with that. But come Sunday evening, it has to go back to the store!

There was a time when I wanted a family and kids. But that time has passed and at this stage of my life, I don't see it working for me. But I was honest with my girl when we first got together. I have no intention of getting married. And I have no intention of having kids. If that's something that is important to her, she needs to find someone who wants those things. But it is not me.

The one common fault that women tend to have is thinking that they can change men. And that false hope tends to lead to hard feelings sooner or later. Best to just accept people as they are, IMO.

I hear you man. So many women I have been with think they can "change" you. If they weren't happy with you in the first place they should never have gotten involved in the relationship. Wimmin!
8th March 2013, 15:42
henners88

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Originally Posted by Jag_Warrior

I like babies... as long as they belong to other people. If she wants to rent one for the weekend, I'd be cool with that. But come Sunday evening, it has to go back to the store!

There was a time when I wanted a family and kids. But that time has passed and at this stage of my life, I don't see it working for me. But I was honest with my girl when we first got together. I have no intention of getting married. And I have no intention of having kids. If that's something that is important to her, she needs to find someone who wants those things. But it is not me.

The one common fault that women tend to have is thinking that they can change men. And that false hope tends to lead to hard feelings sooner or later. Best to just accept people as they are, IMO.

I think we all have experience of women who think they can change their man. My wife has spent years trying to change certain things about me but it hasn't worked. The best thing to do is make them think they are winning (for the easy life), but in fact you have all the cards.

I hope your good lady feels the same as you Jag because resentment if it exists comes to the surface one day, especially if one person wanted kids but the other didn't. For some people having children is not on their radar. I have a few male and female friends who are much the same as they were 10 years ago when we were at University. Still living the single life with live-in partners and don't get the marriage, having children thing, but have fun in different ways. I also have a large group of friends who all seem to have had children in the last 18 months. I think we have 7 children among the lot of us at the various get-together's we have and they are all new-ish babies. My wife is desperate to join them lol. Seems to be something about that 30 mark where some of us have the urge that we need to appear more grown up maybe? Up until about 3 years ago the thought of having children terrified me, but the desire to produce a little person that has characteristics of myself and my wife is now very much wanted. I think in any relationship if one person wants children but the other doesn't, its never going to be something that can be forgotten.

Sorry a bit deep there for the Knight, you're nowhere near that yet pal :p :)
8th March 2013, 16:32
Firstgear

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Originally Posted by The Black Knight

I hear you man. So many women I have been with think they can "change" you.

And the flip side of that would be that guys expect their girl to stay the same, and are just as disappointed.
My advice - Do what you think is right. Sounds simple, but the path of least resistance is often what you know is not best for you, or those around you. So do what is right, and your concience will let you sleep well.
9th March 2013, 18:48
The Black Knight

Thanks for all the advice guys. Seems like I'm on ye right path thus far. Meeting her tonight so shall take it all slow... Even in the bedroom ha! :p
9th March 2013, 23:07
ioan

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Originally Posted by The Black Knight

Meeting her tonight so shall take it all slow... Even in the bedroom ha! :p

Rule No. 1:

You should never be fast in the bedroom.
10th March 2013, 01:10
tfp

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Originally Posted by ioan

Rule No. 1:

You should never be fast in the bedroom.

Unless youre a women ;)
10th March 2013, 01:40
ioan

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Originally Posted by tfp

Unless youre a women ;)

And even then only if she can do it several times in a row. No fakes accepted.
11th March 2013, 07:02
gadjo_dilo

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Originally Posted by Jag_Warrior

The one common fault that women tend to have is thinking that they can change men. And that false hope tends to lead to hard feelings sooner or later. Best to just accept people as they are, IMO.

Don't be so sure. You probably haven't met a real one. Yet. :laugh:
11th March 2013, 07:06
gadjo_dilo

Great thread! And a good lesson for the future. It was really interesting to find out how guys treat the "corazón" issues. :devil:
11th March 2013, 07:46
henners88

I'm yet to meet a woman who doesn't think they can change their man over a period of time. Its a common topic of conversation amongst men, but I suppose in most cases we do need changing a little. I said earlier that my wife had failed to change me in any way but on reflection you realise its the subtle things. I think in a lot of cases men will bite their tongue and do things they don't necessarily enjoy because their woman can withhold certain duties that us men can't do without lol. In some ways we are complete saps, but there are also instances where we win the psychological game even if our good ladies don't know anything about it. ;)
11th March 2013, 07:48
EuroTroll

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Originally Posted by henners88

I think in a lot of cases men will bite their tongue and do things they don't necessarily enjoy because their woman can withhold certain duties that us men can't do without lol.

What, the ironing? :p
11th March 2013, 08:22
henners88

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Originally Posted by EuroTroll

What, the ironing? :p

No I cook and wash up everyday. My wife goes into melt down if you ask her to cook something lol

I enjoy cooking so she does all the washing and ironing. I think I have the better deal. I wouldn't tell her that though or she'd be on a cookery course pretty sharpish ;)
11th March 2013, 09:02
gadjo_dilo

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Originally Posted by henners88

No I cook and wash up everyday. ;)

You're a treasure at one's house....

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Originally Posted by henners88

My wife goes into melt down if you ask her to cook something lol

She already won my symphaty.

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Originally Posted by henners88

I enjoy cooking so she does all the washing and ironing. I think I have the better deal. I wouldn't tell her that though or she'd be on a cookery course pretty sharpish ;)

Nah... You're still under her slipper, remember?
11th March 2013, 09:21
henners88

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Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo

Nah... You're still under her slipper, remember?

Nah, the slipper falls off her thumb before it even touches me.
11th March 2013, 10:43
airshifter

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Originally Posted by henners88

I'm yet to meet a woman who doesn't think they can change their man over a period of time. Its a common topic of conversation amongst men, but I suppose in most cases we do need changing a little. I said earlier that my wife had failed to change me in any way but on reflection you realise its the subtle things. I think in a lot of cases men will bite their tongue and do things they don't necessarily enjoy because their woman can withhold certain duties that us men can't do without lol. In some ways we are complete saps, but there are also instances where we win the psychological game even if our good ladies don't know anything about it. ;)

Well we know who wears the pants in your house Henners. I'm not going to name names, but I think she is winning the overall war! :)

Long term relationships are about compromise at times, and doing things just for the sake of your mate is one way to "sacrifice" and show affection IMO.
11th March 2013, 15:14
ioan

Adapting to each other is always good. But changing a person who is over 16? Forget it, it's way to late.
11th March 2013, 19:27
Garry Walker

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Originally Posted by henners88

Its 7 weeks, he corrected himself later on in the thread.

Well, who cares if it is 7 weeks or months? He should bang her like the world would end tomorrow. You only live once.

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Originally Posted by ioan

Rule No. 1:

You should never be fast in the bedroom.

Unless her dad is coming upstairs.
11th March 2013, 19:47
henners88

That's just brought back a very bad memory!
11th March 2013, 19:50
Garry Walker

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Originally Posted by henners88

That's just brought back a very bad memory!

Yeah, to me too!
11th March 2013, 20:12
The Black Knight

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Originally Posted by Garry Walker

Yeah, to me too!

Me three!
11th March 2013, 20:14
Garry Walker

Well, it seems we made a huge amount of dads quite unhappy (and their daughters happy, hopefully :D ).
11th March 2013, 20:17
Brown, Jon Brow

This happened to me yesterday, except it was the neighbours car that had just pulled up outside, not the parents. The parents didn't show up for 3 hours, which were effectively wasted from a bedroom point of view. At least I got some food made for me in that time though :p
11th March 2013, 20:23
SGWilko

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Originally Posted by Brown, Jon Brow

This happened to me yesterday, except it was the neighbours car that had just pulled up outside, not the parents. The parents didn't show up for 3 hours, which were effectively wasted from a bedroom point of view. At least I got some food made for me in that time though :p

Ah, but the 'quickie' generally tends to be far more intense due to the adrenalin and excitement/fear! Beats foreplay any day of the week!
11th March 2013, 20:38
Mintexmemory

I see this has degenerated from relationship advice to willy waving :rolleyes:

Careful now !! (Father Dougal McGuire)
12th March 2013, 07:26
henners88

Relationship advice

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Originally Posted by Garry Walker

Well, it seems we made a huge amount of dads quite unhappy (and their daughters happy, hopefully :D ).

Meeting my girlfriends mother for the first time one afternoon during Sixth Form college in not the most decent circumstances was traumatic I can tell you. Don't worry mum wont be home early, she works until 5...Yeah right!! I won't go into details as its a family forum lol :)
12th March 2013, 07:31
henners88

How's it going knight old chum? You'll have to keep us posted on your slowly but steady blossoming romance :)
12th March 2013, 07:39
gadjo_dilo

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Originally Posted by henners88

How's it going knight old chum? You'll have to keep us posted on your slowly but steady blossoming romance :)

Henners, it's not nice to be so indiscreet....
12th March 2013, 07:46
henners88

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Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo

Henners, it's not nice to be so indiscreet....

I'm sure he'll inform us if things are going to plan and hopefully his feelings will have changed a little with more time spent with her. I don't see anything nasty about that?
12th March 2013, 10:48
donKey jote

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Originally Posted by henners88

Meeting my girlfriends mother for the first time one afternoon during Sixth Form college in not the most decent circumstances was traumatic I can tell you. Don't worry mum wont be home early, she works until 5...Yeah right!! I won't go into details as its a family forum lol :)

haha, reminds me of a "leg it" moment at a girlfriend's flat one morning when her dad rang the buzzer. I spent a good hour in a cold staircase a couple of floors up :laugh:
12th March 2013, 10:49
donKey jote

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Originally Posted by Garry Walker

Unless her dad is coming upstairs.

yep :laugh:
12th March 2013, 10:51
donKey jote

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Originally Posted by airshifter

Well we know who wears the pants in your house Henners. I'm not going to name names, but I think she is winning the overall war! :)

one last question just to be sure: who cleans the toilets? :andrea:
12th March 2013, 11:49
The Black Knight

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Originally Posted by henners88

How's it going knight old chum? You'll have to keep us posted on your slowly but steady blossoming romance :)

Hey henners, not further update to report. We haven't managed to meet yet. She got sick the weekend so it didn't happen. We're meeting tonight. I shall post a progress report in the morning ;)
12th March 2013, 12:33
henners88

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Originally Posted by donKey jote

one last question just to be sure: who cleans the toilets? :andrea:

She does, my stomach is too weak for that. :D
12th March 2013, 20:01
ioan

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Originally Posted by henners88

Meeting my girlfriends mother for the first time one afternoon during Sixth Form college in not the most decent circumstances was traumatic I can tell you. Don't worry mum wont be home early, she works until 5...Yeah right!! I won't go into details as its a family forum lol :)

:D Same here. Never been caught by fathers though.
13th March 2013, 16:39
schmenke

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Originally Posted by henners88

Meeting my girlfriends mother for the first time one afternoon during Sixth Form college in not the most decent circumstances was traumatic I can tell you. Don't worry mum wont be home early, she works until 5...Yeah right!! I won't go into details as its a family forum lol :)

:laugh:

You must have been scared stiff.
13th March 2013, 16:47
SGWilko

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Originally Posted by schmenke

:laugh:

You must have been scared stiff.

You missed out an 'and'...... ;)

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