Men and the Mid Life Crisis

Sometimes, it's nothing more than people not being familiar with your history. I've owned and ridden motorcyles constantly since I was 14. My first car at age 16 was a Sunbeam Alpine III and due to not having to haul children around, I'd always had a sports or performance car until 2006 when I got the pickup truck. But I know the look. I'd be out in the Corvette or even now be out on the Harley and get those "Ahhhh look...his second childhood looks" or even "mid-life crisis" comments. Nah, just doing what I've always done. You weren't there to see it, thats all.

I think many of those middle aged men driving Ferrari's or whatever would have loved to have done that in their 20's but just couldn't afford it! So when you've got the money, why not!

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Originally Posted by Dave Brockman

Likewise a former colleague of mine who the moment he hit 40 chopped in his reliable sensible car for an Audi TT (and also his reliable sensible missus for a 19 year old, but that's another story).

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Ah, but is he happy? :p :

The 19 year old will see he's no match for her and leave him, then the car will rust.
He'll keep in touch with the ex until she forgets him for the new man she's found ... and he'll be alone or stuck with a chubby woman his own age that he ends up hating ;)

I've never seen a genuine mid life crisis with a happy ending.

I know all about it. Less than a month after turning 40 I was driving a red sports car.
That was over 10 years ago, and I still drive a red sports car, because I can. I only wish I could've afforded a nice car when I was younger. I am not, however, chasing the ladies.

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Originally Posted by Hazell B

Ah, but is he happy? :p :

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I bet he is

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Originally Posted by Hazell B

The 19 year old will see he's no match for her and leave him, then the car will rust.
He'll keep in touch with the ex until she forgets him for the new man she's found

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So what? he will get another 19 year old and trade his rust bucket for another sports car.

Hazell. Don't hate the player....hate the game.

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Originally Posted by Hazell B

I've never seen a genuine mid life crisis with a happy ending.

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Ohhhhhhh......I have...........It is not about the destination but how you get there.

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Originally Posted by Hazell B

Ah, but is he happy? :p :

The 19 year old will see he's no match for her and leave him, then the car will rust.
He'll keep in touch with the ex until she forgets him for the new man she's found ... and he'll be alone or stuck with a chubby woman his own age that he ends up hating ;)

I've never seen a genuine mid life crisis with a happy ending.

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I think of a genuine mid life crisis as one where the person (male or female) tries to transform himself or herself into something that they are not... and have never been.

If it's a guy, and he's never known the difference between a sports car and a GT car, but he rushes out and buys one or the other when he notices his hair thinning... yeah, that might be a sign of a mid life crisis. If a guy dumps his wife of 20 years, gets plastic surgery, hires a trainer, buys a Rolex, moves into a bachelor pad and starts hanging out with people half his age ALL the time... that probably is a sign of a mid life crisis.

But just because a guy starts cleaning up, wearing nicer clothes and buys a well made sports car, I wouldn't necessarily see that as an indicator that he's in the midst of a mid life crisis.

On another board I'm on, there's a couple who are May/December. He's in his mid/late 40's and she's in her late 20's. He's divorced and this is her first marriage. They've been together for about 10 years - so she must have been in her late teens when they met. Now, they are a little "different", but their relationship seems to work for them.

From personal experience, most really young girls (tweenagers: late teens to early 20's) who go after or get with guys twice their age are usually gold diggers (to some extent). And some middle age and older guys don't mind playing the part of a sugar daddy. As long as both parties know the deal, I figure that's their business. It's when one party doesn't understand the deal that feelings get hurt and things get weird. Young girls who expect to get gifts and trips, but then don't get them... can get very weird. And I guess an older guy who assumes that one of these girls would love him even if he was dirt poor, when he finds out that isn't true, I guess he gets weird too.

I just think hat there are some people you date (strictly) for fun (whatever their age), and there are some that are more serious (whatever their age). I don't see that age necessarily has much to do with either one. And whether it's a car or the choice of clothes, the main thing is that a person be genuine. If someone saw me driving a 4 door Buick (Mondeo or Vectra to you guys in the UK), they'd probably think I'd been given a notice of impending death by my doctor.

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Originally Posted by edv

I know all about it. Less than a month after turning 40 I was driving a red sports car.
That was over 10 years ago, and I still drive a red sports car, because I can. I only wish I could've afforded a nice car when I was younger. I am not, however, chasing the ladies.

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Go ahead and tell the truth! They chase you, don't they? :D

Other than a friendly, cute dog, there's just not a better ice breaker available. :s mokin:

In terms of having a midlife crisis I think a radical change of clothing is my biggest issue. Well that or people wearing clothing that are much too young for them. I'm not too botherer with radical car purchases.

My dad isn't having a midlife crisis at 60 but there was a point when we were on the McLaren stand at last years British GP when I had to put my foot down and say your not buying that! A slightly overweight 60 year old should not be wanting to purchase a luminous orange Lewis Hamilton skinny fit TShirt. It's just wrong. :s

I'm 45 and I'm still waiting for mine.

If I need to buy an expensive sports car to have a midlife crisis then I better start saving and start mine in ten years time.

Any rich members out there want to contribute to my midlife crisis fund? :D

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Originally Posted by Hazell B

I've never seen a genuine mid life crisis with a happy ending.

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Living with a 19 year old, I suspect he's had quite a few happy endings! :p :