That may be true, but, from personal experience, it doesn't help to be told when you're depressed that there are others out there with far worse problems. Of course, this is quite right, but it's little consolation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Storm
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That may be true, but, from personal experience, it doesn't help to be told when you're depressed that there are others out there with far worse problems. Of course, this is quite right, but it's little consolation.Quote:
Originally Posted by Storm
i'd agree with that :)Quote:
Originally Posted by Storm
Depends on person. I had to stay a week in hospital for my mum. When I saw people who suffer without many hopes I understood I should be happy despite my miserable life. And is one thing to be told and another to see it with your own eyes.Quote:
Originally Posted by BDunnell
But a long trip somewhere is the best therapy. You escape the every day routine and forget the problems.
Seeing other are worse off than yourself does NOT help if you're in genuine depression - don't start pointing out yet more of the world's ills to somebody who's already in misery with themselves.
Therapy's great I'm told, in fact I'm considering it myself as I'm having nightmares about being robbed again, not eating much and losing interest in all of my business. Other hobbies are helping me, as are days out away from my problems. Best to try that, if you've time, as I'm sure there's a common thing you both enjoy that'll help her raise spirits :up:
I agree. Telling her that other people have problems wont make her problems go away.Quote:
Originally Posted by BDunnell
Sadly depression is something that people can't pull you out of with one single act.
I'd echo what people have said already and just be there to talk and do stuff. I think most people go through some fairly dark times at one point or another and the most important thing is to not feel alone. I can only speak from my own experience but when I was down there was one moment when I just had a 'moment of clarity'. For me it took one bottle of vodka a whole load of other stuff, falling asleep in the street (twice), and having a 2 day hangover. I wouldn't advise this as therapy to any other person because it's horrible but it just happened to be what worked for me in that instance.
I know a couple of people who have had counselling and although they say that it didn't do much it is obvious that they are a bit cheerier because of it.
First she and then them? I didn't quite understand that thing. Or was it just a typo?Quote:
Originally Posted by Brown, Jon Brow
I think this way too. She could take it as saying that she's stupid to be so worked up on "some little thing" and that she should be all happy and cheery. I know I would. I think it's generally not a good idea to compare each others problems or obstacles to overcome. Just as those obstacles come in different sizes, so come the persons who have to overcome them.Quote:
Originally Posted by BDunnell
Erki, I think that "she" and then "them" makes sense in the same way that you can say "his hat" or "their hat" to refer to the same thing.Quote:
Originally Posted by Erki
About the much-discussed proposal of showing her someone in greater need than herself, I also think that this is a mistake. From personal experience, it would possibly make her feel worse.
I know. But mostly it is used to keep it gender-neutral. But Jon already said that she's a gal so why use a gender-neutral pronoun afterward? Just wondering.Quote:
Originally Posted by cosmicpanda
Sorry for mega-OT.
That will probably work for an Emo teen. The middle income/educated/two parent household kind of person that has it better than 90% of the world, and yet is still unhappy with life and feels mistreated. Showing them people with real life problems will probably make them realize how insignificant their imaginary problems are.Quote:
Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
I dont think it will work on a person that has real problems though.