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I don't claim to be an expert but have experience of a situation similar to this one. I've also had friends who have gone through tricky situations too.Quote:
Originally Posted by gadjo_dilo
Yeah good luck I'm sure you'll get your answer by next week. You obviously like her so hopefully she'll be all over you again if she thinks you've cooled things off after a few days. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by The Black Knight
Agree with cutting contact for a week or so, but don't do any explanations about vibes and so, that will scare her away again as it will seem that you are getting to close sentimentally.Quote:
Originally Posted by henners88
More reason to do something else, more interesting, in the dark.Quote:
Originally Posted by The Black Knight
Many things women do really do not make sense to men. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by The Black Knight
Yeah you could be right not to mention about the bad vibes. Perhaps the knight should just say about giving her a bit of space but mention about doing something soon if she fancies it? Gage her reaction from that :)Quote:
Originally Posted by ioan
I fixed your "weeks/months" dilemma in your original post for you :up:Quote:
Originally Posted by The Black Knight
Now for the main topic. Man its been so long since I've had to worry about the dating scene I'm not sure if I even know what it's like anymore. I married my best friend 14 years ago, been with her for 16 total, and have known her for 21 years. When I first met her she was married to a guy that worked for me part time and who was a fulltime US Marine at the time.
I never gave Slorydn2 a thought back then. She was married, pregnant with her second child, and I had a few girls I was seeing then (ohhh to be 21 again) :D
He ended up getting out of the Marine Corps, and he quit working for me and they moved away.
I subsequently got a job in our local hospital in the Radiology Dept as a transporter (I would pick up the patient from their room and bring them down to Radiology for whatever procedure they were having and bring them back). I was working a double shift one day and got sent up to pediatrics to pick up a child with a very familiar sounding name. I walk in to PEDs and who do I run into? Her. It was her kid that had pneumonia. I brought him down and she came with us. While he was having his tests run we stepped outside and chatted for a while and that was that. I didn't see her again for several years.
Then one day when I was pulling duty as a volunteer EMT a gorgeous looking girl with 2 young children pops in to the building and asks for an application as she was going to school to be an EMT herself. I look up from my paperwork and its her! I handed her the application, we talked for a while and then she left. She got accepted (we ended up sponsoring her so she didn't have to pay for her certification classes) so we got to see each other, alot. I really dug her as a friend, even back in the very beginning, but that was all, and besides she was married, right? That's when she drops the bombshell on me. They were getting a divorce! Now I had been through a few bad relationships up to that point myself and I was starting to get to that point that I would never have a really solid long term relationship, and like I said before, I really dug this girl as a friend, she had helped me through some bad times before with other girls, giving me advice from a girls point of view, helping me to intepret the "language of women".
I wasn't about to screw that up, I was just going to be friends with her and that was that. It wasn't until one of the other girls in our squad cornered me one night and told me that if I didn't ask Slorydn2 out that she was going to kill me as she was tired of hearing Slo2 whine "what was wrong with her, why wouldn't I ask her out?"
SO I did. We made magic from the get-go. It didn't take me long to realize from that point on that she was the "one". Even with all that though we still had our ups and downs through the dating period, we both had "security and rebound issues" to deal with. we got through those and here we are, 16 years later here we are with 3 kids (2 of them adults now), working for the same agency (I am a 911 center supervisor and she is a Detention Officer) and we are as happy as can be-broke, but happy.
Sorry I got so long winded with my story, I just decided to throw it out there to make a point. You will know if she is the one or not, and yes, it is possible to hook up with a former friend/acquaintance and make it work. I guess the only advice I can give, which will echo what others before me have said, is to give her, no give both of you space apart from each other from time to time, and don't pressure her into anything-in fact don't feel pressured to do anything. Time will tell if both of you are right for each other and then you will know. Take it one day at a time, and most of all, have fun :up:
Now if you will excuse me I must go and give myself points for being so long winded, LOL
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Originally Posted by henners88
Thanks. We'll see what happens :) For now I'm just going to chill in London with my buddies. She's off my radar for now.
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Originally Posted by ioan
I agree with that! :)
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Originally Posted by ioan
That would not have worked, tempted though as I was! :D
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Originally Posted by henners88
Yeah, I'm not going to mention bad vibes to her at all. That would be a bad idea. I'm happy to give space or even give her a few months to sort herself out and touch base with her then if both of us are still single and if not then that's life.
Thanks :)Quote:
Originally Posted by slorydn1
Absolutely. When you are in your 20s, live for the moment (try to score as much as possible).Quote:
Originally Posted by ioan
You meant "most" of course.Quote:
Originally Posted by ioan
Any thing I can do to help.
Here is a very helpful book.
Unfortunately I only have it in Spanish.
It's called: "How to Understand Women"
Buena suerte.
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