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After splitting up with my first true love just over a month ago (after over a year together), I was wondering if anyone still thinks about their first true love or were you lucky enough to stay with them until this day?
I can't stop thinking about Sarah infact i'm still in love with her and can't get over her, but guess i'll have to!
Anyone got any good ways over getting over her? No silly suggestions like sleeping with her best mate or getting pissed!
Gillian Kelly :love: She was the first girl I kissed and my first real girlfriend, but I was 11 at the time. We'd been going out for a few months when she moved away with her parents because her Dad got a new job and my heart was broken for the first time ;(
I caught up with her a few years back on Friends Reunited, she's married now with four kids.
Best way to get over a lost love is to find another to replace it. It may sound hard but you have to try and move on. There are plenty of others out there and for someone as young as yourself, there's plenty of time to enjoy life without tying yourself down to a permenant relationship.
Take up golf.
All together now " The first cut is the deepest, baby I know the first cut is the deepest".
I'm a happily married forty something and I still think about my first true love, but you just gotta' get out there and meet someone new.
Been split up from my first for seven months now. Worse part is, due to unavoidable circumstances I still see her 2 or 3 times a week, although she won't speak to me. It gets easier to deal with over time, but in terms of actually getting over it? No. And I actually doubt I will.
Apparently the hearing of your first loves voice etc creates a craving ten times stronger than that of a cocaine addict.
Also, it will be the worst thing for you to try rekindle things, completely screws you up.
A change of scenery is the best thing for it. Go somewhere completely new that has no connection whatsoever with your ex. That makes it a bit easier..
Sorry to hear it, Cossie...
I'll never forget Sherri (nor the pain when she left)
Don't rush geting over her. It's a pain of love, and worth the hurt (if that makes any sense)
Is your name Steve Perry?Quote:
Originally Posted by tannat
:p : :D
Pamela Taylor from Vauxhall. Cute as a button and with a wicked gleam in her eye.
The shameless little madam jumped on top of me in the middle of a bomb site in John Islip Street Westminister and gave me such a smacker on the lips that all the chocolate melted off me Curly Wurly :(
Mind you I was only 9 at the time.
Chin up 306. We've all been there mate :)
All things must pass, my friend. First I fell in love madly when I was 20. But it never worked. She was dating my friend and then married him. I was invited to the wedding but did not go, naturally. My second big love was easier. We dated for four years and then she started getting on my last nerve. When I showed her the door I felt a tremendous relief. Now I'm happily married to yet another woman I love and we expect a child. Everything will be all right.
I think mine was one of the girls from Charlies Angels, though hell it was so long ago I can't remember which :D
I had been around a bit but didn't know what love was until I met my wife, though I did learn the hard way, she managed to break my heart at least once on the way :s
Still, worth it in the end :D
my first true love would have had to be my brothers Debbie Harry poster and a pack of kleenex (to wipe my eyes because she would never be mine, of course.)
Yeah, I still have that problem with Kylie Minogue :dozey:
Petra 19 years old from Dortmund, met her in Hikkadua (Sri Lanka) many years ago, spendt 3 months with her in Sri Lanka, India, Thailand, Nepal, then back to Europe...The most crazy girl I've met in my life :s mokin: Sorry can't go in details or I'll be in trouble with my wife :p : ;)
I broke up with my first girlfriend the day after joining this forum. Best way to replace a woman is with a forum :p
Dry your eyes, mate. I know it's hard to take but her mind has been made up. Plenty more fish in the sea.
That'd make a good song, that....
Best thing to do is go down to the pub with mates and get absolutely rat-ars*d then go and try to get with one of her best ma :erm: ..............oops................................
just read the 1st post :uhoh:
No good advice here, I suffered the "we-are.-firends" syndrome and therefore my chances were ruined. We are still good friends and whenever I see her I still think I love her.
When my heart was broken for the first time I thought it would last forever but eventually the pain fades and some memories remain.
Patience, friends and beer would do the trick.
Does a "1st true love" actually have to be someone who you have actually gone out with?
Because I had one or two girls at school I had a massive crush on (I even gave one a gift once!) but I was a small, fat loser who had absolutely no experience with the fairer sex, confidence or esteem (nothing much has changed then in over 100 years!), who thought was the type no girl would ever need or want. That is why I have never tested the water. Went in there and gave it a whack. I thought they would never say yes. :(
I still fancied her and thought about her like mad tho.
I am still with the love of my life and my first love, Louise. it may only be a year we've been together on the 27th June, but its felt like a lifetime, and we very much want to spend the rest of our lives together. :)
I'm sorry but I just had to quote that :uhoh:Quote:
Originally Posted by SEATFreak
Key word here is FIRST.
It hurts now, but there'll be others.
Some of them will hurt too - in fact most of them probably will.... :erm:
I'm not really helping here... am I? :erm:
That's how I felt mate, so did she (apparently) Spent 1Year 3Months together, and then that was it, in just a few simple words, my world was pretty much taken away from me. Not that i'm saying it'll happen to you, but IF it does you'll know what i'm going through and it hurts, alot.Quote:
Originally Posted by stevie_gerrard
Especially as a little over a week later she got with someone else, and made me feel like I meant absolutely **** all, talk about sticking the knife in deeper :mad: :bigcry:
Oh and thanks for all the comments everyone, it's my 18th in 2 weeks and i'm going out with a few friends and one of them happens to be a girl i've quite liked for sometime now so see how things go!
Good luck mate ;)
Any particular pointless reason or is it yet another baseless dig at me because you feel like having a dig at me?Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
I mean, how would you describe someone like me given what I think and feel about me seeing if a girl will say 'yes', or as I think 'no', and ask her out?
Same thing happened with me, Cossie..Quote:
Originally Posted by 306 Cosworth
My grades plummeted, I had no humor in me whatsoever, felt like an absolute vegetable...
:laugh:Quote:
Originally Posted by Alexamateo
Cos it's funny innit?Quote:
Originally Posted by SEATFreak
That's the same with me, I've fallen behind on my coursework at college now, I had no motivation what so ever and everything just felt sh*t basically! Catching up with my Coursework (slowly) now though which is good but still miss her and think about her when ever I have a quiet moment to myself.Quote:
Originally Posted by tannat
I haven't the faintest idea how to approach girls or what to do next. I don't find the fact I am a no-hoper who just ain't good enough funny.Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
The worst part about being a total no-hoper is the fact I wasn't able to get close to my first love at school to ask her out.
But surely, even it is something of a consolation prize, though I couldn't ask her out, the very fact I did have feelings for her in the first place surely makes her my offical first love?
Ah but are you sure you were in Love with her though? You get all sorts of funny feelings when your in love, you constantly miss them even if they're in the next room (well that's how I felt) you wanted them by yourside 24/7 you missed every little thing that they did, and you got a funny feeling inside every time you hear their voice on the phone or when you see them again.
I simply thought the words were funny. I wasn't laughing at you.......Quote:
Originally Posted by SEATFreak
Believe me you can get that feeling about anything. I got teary when my PoS Audi got taken away and I absolutely despised that car. Emotions are ****ing irritating things and do not necessarily indicate what you're actually thinking.Quote:
Originally Posted by 306 Cosworth
Well tis how I felt about Sarah :p :
Fair enough :) not trying to say otherwise. You'll learn though that emotions are not logical things. For example you can be in an abusive relationship and be aware of it but do nothing about it :crazy:
Well I hope that doesn't happen :erm:
I'm in an abusve relationship Dan.Quote:
Originally Posted by Daniel
Last American Independence Day Mrs Oaf came home early and caught me watching "Seahunt" with me strides round me ankles and going at it full pelt with a Lay Zee Boy vacuum pump.
It gives me no pleasure whatsoever to inform you that I was killed instantly.
I remember I was unceremoniously dumped by a raven haired beauty whom I adored. I was devastated, but a man older and wiser than me cheered me up with the following words of wisdom.
"Its better to have loved and lost...than to have spent your whole life w+nking" and its true!
Don't know what to say... love is a tricky thing. I think you will get over it but the memories will always be there.
Please, just don't do what a friend of my brother's as done since...god... at least 10 years:
After a girl that he was dating for a year or so dumped him he decided never to wear anything but black.
Oh, my wife told me that when she broke up with someone she used to listen to a bunch of love songs and cry all of the emotions out. Then she was ready to face the world... :erm: can't say if that would work with a man though...
Don't be so hard on yourself SEATFreak. Remeber like BJB's sig says there's nothing a few pints cannot do. ;)Quote:
Originally Posted by SEATFreak
Dan try seeing things from his point of view. I've had times when I felt unwanted and often took offense when it wasn't ment. Thankfully I've gotten over it now. :)