Relationship advice

[gadjo_dilo]

Child's pose? I don't even know what that is.

My signature?

But my suggestion would have been some romantic comedy. "Always the romantic comedy," a wise fellow once told me. "It'll be worth suffering through it, you'll see."

Yeah. I bet that would have made the Knight sleeping.

[EuroTroll]

My signature?

Ah, ok!

Yeah. I bet that would have made the Knight sleeping.

Maybe, and maybe not. The girl's purring might have kept him awake.

[The Black Knight]

He didn't ask! We certainly would have told him that Die Hard was a bad idea. You don't watch action films with chicks! They fall asleep.

No, no no. She wanted to go and see Die Hard. She loves those movies. I really didn't because I felt it would be a crap movie. It happened before then though. She just freaked out. 8 months out of a ten year relationship, she's clearly not ready yet and she admitted the same last night to me. All is well anyway. I feel I handled the situation pretty well overall.

[gadjo_dilo]

She wanted to go and see Die Hard. She loves those movies. .

That was the moment when you should have dumped her.

[EuroTroll]

No, no no. She wanted to go and see Die Hard. She loves those movies. I really didn't because I felt it would be a crap movie. It happened before then though. She just freaked out. 8 months out of a ten year relationship, she's clearly not ready yet and she admitted the same last night to me. All is well anyway. I feel I handled the situation pretty well overall.

Alright mate. We're just jesting here now, anyway. Just a little post-mortem jesting.

I'm glad you don't have any regrets. They're the worst...

Good luck with the next one!

[gadjo_dilo]

Good luck with the next one!

Or go back to your old flame, be a nice guy and help her to get over depression.
( Now I am really serious ).

[henners88]

Or go back to your old flame, be a nice guy and help her to get over depression.
( Now I was really serious ).

I wouldn't advise that at all. It sounds like both parties wanted the outcome and its best to leave it in the past.

[gadjo_dilo]

I wouldn't advise that at all. It sounds like both parties wanted the outcome and its best to leave it in the past.

The romantic in me (???!!?!?) says that they don't know what they're missing....
( I'm also serious ).

[airshifter]

The romantic in me (???!!?!?) says that they don't know what they're missing....
( I'm also serious ).

I'm not sure about the romance part... only BK knows what might or might not be with his former girlfriend. But I find your advice very sound still. If nothing else she will appreciate that someone cares about her enough to help her through her dark days. And regardless of how she copes (or doesn't) with her depression he will get the satisfaction of knowing he has made an honest attempt to help a fellow human through very tough times. Helping someone in need without any other motives can be a very powerful thing.

[The Black Knight]

I'm not sure about the romance part... only BK knows what might or might not be with his former girlfriend. But I find your advice very sound still. If nothing else she will appreciate that someone cares about her enough to help her through her dark days. And regardless of how she copes (or doesn't) with her depression he will get the satisfaction of knowing he has made an honest attempt to help a fellow human through very tough times. Helping someone in need without any other motives can be a very powerful thing.

I can genuinely say that my former girlfriend and I have no hope of getting back together. I've discussed this with many people, including my own personal counselor, and the general consensus is that I have done more than enough. She's an adult and must take responsibility for herself at some point. Even without the depression there were too many issues there, all of which are things she must over come herself. I did everything I could for her. Any reach out must be done by her now, but even if she did contact me, it is definitely too late for her and I. I don't have the energy to go through all that again.