Men and the Mid Life Crisis

[Mark]

My dad isn't having a midlife crisis at 60 but there was a point when we were on the McLaren stand at last years British GP when I had to put my foot down and say your not buying that! A slightly overweight 60 year old should not be wanting to purchase a luminous orange Lewis Hamilton skinny fit TShirt. It's just wrong.

Doesn't seem to concern Martin Whitmarsh

[Bezza]

Convertibles and men don't go together. Not in the UK anyway.

Get a proper car and get over your mid-life crisis!!!

[Hazell B]

I think of a genuine mid life crisis as one where the person (male or female) tries to transform himself or herself into something that they are not... and have never been.

That's what I'd say too.
I also think we Brits handle it far less well than Americans. Frankly, half the 45ish year old men I've known who've altered themselves all of a rush look like twits for a while. Most of them return to themselves after a few months, once they work out the wife's their best option after all :

[A.F.F.]

It is not a mid-life crisis. That is just a term used by woman who hate the fact that a man has finally reached the financial level where he can indulge in what he always wanted.....and it is not her.

And he is way beyond the point of caring wtf she says.

[Jag_Warrior]

That's what I'd say too.
I also think we Brits handle it far less well than Americans. Frankly, half the 45ish year old men I've known who've altered themselves all of a rush look like twits for a while. Most of them return to themselves after a few months, once they work out the wife's their best option after all :

I think there should be a law that before anyone can get plastic surgery (that's not related to cancer, a birth defect or an accident) they have to get at least 20 strangers to vote. Only if a majority say that it's OK, can that person get nipped, tucked, stretched, lifted, enlarged or whatever. In a lot of cases, average becomes fugly. I would put up a picture of Joan Rivers or Janice Dickinson, but somebody here might be eating. Ewww!

If they ever get the technology advanced to where silicone and botox are detected by airline screening, at least 75% of the people in California will have to start taking the bus to travel.

[markabilly]

It is not a mid-life crisis. That is just a term used by woman who hate the fact that a man has finally reached the financial level where he can indulge in what he always wanted.....and it is not her.

BINGO!!

That's definately a midlifecrisismobile. Likewise a former colleague of mine who the moment he hit 40 chopped in his reliable sensible car for an Audi TT (and also his reliable sensible missus for a 19 year old, but that's another story).

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Big mistake....get a bimbo for some side action, but keep the missus for reliable housekeeping, dealing with the other household issues and so forth.

Divorces are too expensive and having bimbos on the side who are much easier to trade out when they get boring..use them and lose them....

Remember dudes, the three "Fs" is an excellent rule of thumb for 19 y.o. bimbos on the side

[Hazell B]

Oi!
I've been that bimbo!
We're not just there to act stupid, you know. We get the good stuff without any of the hassles. Bimbo? No, talented more like :

[Mark in Oshawa]

I think men have a mid life crisis that usually involves one last go at chasing women and driving fast cars. THAT I get..even tho after just turning 44 it hasn't really hit me.

What I have NEVER understood is how women can spend a lifetime pruning, preening, worrying, obsessing, dieting, purging, detoxing, beautifying and just plain old fussing over their appearence; and then get mad when a man doesn't care, drinks and eats what he wants for 25 years and ENJOYS life. Who is the dumb one? In the end, the woman in her 40's will look like she would have looked to an extent if she didn't fuss, and would be a lot happier.

Happiness in your 40's usually means you have the money to do what you always wanted to do, and the time to do it. THAT is not a mid-life crisis Hazell, that is fulfilling your dreams. Most men dream like 19 year old guys...lol.

Now if the women could relax and realize all the great things they should enjoy, they wouldn't see it as a bad thing to be in one's 40's and enjoying life.

My lady is starting to get it now....it only took me 9 years to get her to realize she doesn't have to be anything special, she has my love for the right reasons and she should enjoy herself. When she does this, we have the most marvelous time.

I dated a 21 year old beautiful nurse from Louisana when I was 33. It was .....well different. Now I am 44, and live with someone my age, I realize you don't need the younger mate, you just need the right one.

[Hazell B]

What I have NEVER understood is how women can spend a lifetime pruning, preening, worrying, obsessing, dieting, purging, ........

No, I don't get that either. Then again I'm lucky in that I stayed thin enough, am happy with the body I got and frankly couldn't give a stuff how scruffy/tidy/scented I am :

Mark, you're not really getting the UK's version of a midlife crisis. It's not about finally being able to afford things, it's about men quite literally going off the rails by trying to be something they aren't (and really, really should never be !). It's not a car they've dreamed of, it's a car they think will make them attractive. It's not about clothes they look good in, it's clothes they think women will like them in. The result is a sorry sight :

[Mark in Oshawa]

No, I don't get that either. Then again I'm lucky in that I stayed thin enough, am happy with the body I got and frankly couldn't give a stuff how scruffy/tidy/scented I am :

Mark, you're not really getting the UK's version of a midlife crisis. It's not about finally being able to afford things, it's about men quite literally going off the rails by trying to be something they aren't (and really, really should never be !). It's not a car they've dreamed of, it's a car they think will make them attractive. It's not about clothes they look good in, it's clothes they think women will like them in. The result is a sorry sight :

Sorta like women who buy clothes based on the idea they will get the right man? Damn..that can work tho....

I suppose you are right but a lot of women do wacky things when they get desparate. Marry men locked in prison for life; have so much plastic surgery their own mother's wouldn't recognize them; marry men so old they can barely stand up; try on about 14 different anti-depressents until they find one that kills them.

The point I suppose I should have made is both sexes do the dumbest damned things, not just the men in their mid-life crisis. Both sexes try to hang onto their youth and attractiveness to the opposite sex, even if they have been married for 20 years. Women do it all along in one way or another, men save all their stupidity up for a blast of idiocy in their 40's or 50's. Most of us realize how stupid it all us and stop ourselves from doing this before we really start...and then others....well you can all them w a n k ers..